The grief won’t ease?
You don’t have to go through it alone.
Grief is a natural path and takes time. But sometimes you get stuck in it. Then coaching with hypnosis can support you – from holding on to gratitude.
I know
how that feels
I was 14 when my father died suddenly of a heart attack – in the middle of the autumn holidays, in front of the whole family. There was no goodbye. During those same holidays we moved 300 kilometers back to our hometown: new school, new class, hardly any friends. I barely grieved.
Ten years later, the grief came – with full force. I could hardly talk about my father without bursting into tears. Only a hypnosis coaching session in 2020 helped me let go of what had secretly shaped my life for so long.
Read my whole story
At that time, because of my father’s work, we lived 300 kilometers away from our hometown. During the holidays we visited the family – that autumn, too. On a Sunday, the whole family sat together in a restaurant. The atmosphere was harmonious as always, but this time especially intense. As if a farewell dinner really was about to take place.
In the afternoon we drove to my grandparents. They still lived in the apartment where my father had grown up. His old childhood bedroom had since become a kind of second living room; even his couch from his childhood was still there. He lay down on it for an afternoon nap while we all sat at the dining table in the same room.
When my grandmother called us for dinner, my father tried to sit up. He sank back with snoring sounds, and we laughed – we thought it was one of his jokes. After a few moments we stopped laughing. My father was fighting for his life.
Panic broke out. I called the emergency number, made mistakes in my agitation, hung up too early, called again. My grandmother tried to resuscitate him, my siblings screamed with fear. The emergency doctor only arrived after 30 minutes. Stammering, I ran up and down the street in front of the house. For an hour the doctors did their best while we waited at the neighbors’. Then my grandmother came in and said a sentence to my mother that I will never forget: “You are a widow now.”
That same evening, I kept calling my father’s mobile phone. Maybe he would answer. Maybe it had all just been a terrible nightmare. I was trapped as if in a parallel world.
Then everything happened very quickly: the move, a new school, new classmates. A friend from primary school became my most important support. From the outside came questions like “Why did you actually move?” – and I barely understood what had happened.
I grew up and carried something unresolved with me all those years. Ten years later, I began to grieve. “That was ten years ago, you should be over it by now,” people said. So I grieved in secret and unconsciously looked for other reasons why I wasn’t doing well. Things went downhill, inside and out. At 23, I had burnout.
Talking to psychologists helped me understand. I only let go when, in 2020, I got to the root with hypnosis – to what had secretly sabotaged my joy of life, my energy and my happiness for years.
What is normal –
and what no longer is
How long does grief last?
When are you stuck?
When is it still too early?
Four main reasons
why people get stuck
No goodbye
Parted in an argument
Things left unsaid
Pain as a connection
In my case, three of these main reasons applied. For a long time, I wasn’t even aware that they were exactly what was holding me back.
I want to be the person for you that I so desperately wished for back then. I support you in your process – out of grief and pain, into love and gratitude.
There is one requirement: you want to move out of your grief.